Post #22 - Spreading Mama's Ashes...

Today was a rough day because Mama's ashes were finally spread. Not everyone went, but we all met up at the Scott Road gurdwara afterwards. I asked Mami-Ji about everything when we came back to the house and she said that they had gotten a huge boat and went out to White Rock to spread Mama's ashes in the water. It's the water that you can see from the back of their property. I can't quite remember the name of it even though she mentioned it to me, but it might be Boundary Bay. I'll have to check...

Mami-Ji told me that they were all there on the boat for quite some time. The people who were steering it were really nice and they took pictures of the water. The picture that I have up isn't one of those pictures, but it gives a visual image of what the water might've looked like. Did anyone else also notice that the weather today was just so ideal to be on the water? That's what I thought. Sunny with a light breeze - something that's not typical in Vancouver considering all the rain we usually get around this time of the year...

Anyways, Roger, Bhabi, and I were taking care of Ameer for most of the morning. I absolutely love the fact that him and Jasmin have bonded so much. Mami-Ji was joking this afternoon how Jasmin loves having all the boys around now, but when she's older she's going to hate it because they'll be watching her every move! Anyways, for now she just loves chasing her Ameer Chacha around. She's always shouting his name and he's right there next to her giggling hysterically. It's so adorable.

Jasmin fell asleep, so Bhabi had to stay home when Roger and I took Ameer to the gurdwara. The moment at the gurdwara before ardaas with the whole "eyeglasses situation" kind of broke the seriousness of everything going on. Masi's words were sooo true when she said:
"If Dave were here today, he'd be on the floor laughing!"
That's exactly what I thought when Sukhi and I exchanged confused looks with each other. I remember thinking if Mama were here today, I could just imagine the look that would be on his face because I’ve seen it before. You would see the confusion in his eyes, but the laughter hidden behind his half smile! I guess you just had to be there to know what I'm talking about...

On the way home from the gurdwara, Harinder and Jason joined Roger, Ameer, and I in the Mazda. Because he's so young, I don't even think Ameer knows that what he said next was just so perfect given the circumstances of the day. He requested that Harinder play "Me & U"...Mama's song. And that's what we ended up listening to.

I remember when we were leaving Arjan guys' house to head back home a few hours ago, Dada-Ji was saying how the place they picked to spread Mama's ashes was perfect and much better than spreading them in India. People usually go to India to spread their family member's ashes, but that wasn't what Mami-Ji wanted and I agreed with her when she told me why a couple of months ago. It was also at that time that there was talk about spreading Mama's ashes somewhere in Vancouver, but today's place was so ideal and I'm glad they chose it. When Mami-Ji told me about it today, the exact words I uttered were: "Wow, that's perfect." It's so close to home because every time you look out their window and into the backyard, you can see the water...

xoxo Karen